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This Week’s Practice
Do something that happy couples do
- Schedule your “magic 5 hours a week” — and start making this a habit (one thing at a time). This printable page is kind of ridiculous, but it will remind you what to do.
- Celebrate something with your partner.
- Talk about the ways that you expand each other. (If you’d like, take the quiz I refer to.)
- Cultivate (or nurture) your positive illusions about your partner. In what ways are they above average? Write a 6-word love note to your partner here.
Join the Discussion
What makes you feel happiest as a couple?
Suggested Reading This Week
Enthusiastic Spouses Have Happy Marriages
Weekly Thought
Life’s short and we never have enough time for the hearts of those who travel the way with us. O, be swift to love! Make haste to be kind.” –Henri-Frederic Amiel
Well, I am wishing I had taken this course a couple of years ago, as what it does now is mostly highlight how disfunctional my relationship has become. I am sorry to be such a downer, but this course is depressing me. My partner thinks it is unrealistic (after 15 years) for me to want him to ask (and mean it) how my day was. So, being able to do these other things seem very far away from where I am right now.
I’m so sorry to hear about your situation. All you can do is focus on your own behavior—indeed that is all we can ever do. While that might be depressing for you to hear, think of yourself as gaining valuable skills that will serve you in all of your relationships.
Great article.Thanks Again. Want more.