Why We Aren’t as Good at Saving the Earth as We Want to Be

Three brain traps that make us wasteful and how to outsmart them.


A little while ago at a birthday soiree, I got to sit across from one of UC Berkeley’s cutting-edge ocean researchers. I asked him to explain to me how climate change is affecting fish populations, and he responded by saying that “climate change is happening too slowly.” He lamented that while it is true that marine […]

Confessions of a Bad Meditator

I know meditation is good for me--but I've avoided it for 30 years. Here’s why.

When I was in high school, my advisor, Michael Mulligan, called my parents to recommend a special treatment for my anxiety: Transcendental Meditation (“TM”). I was a high-achieving perfectionist so anxious, at times, that I had stress-induced asthma. Mr. Mulligan was not then, and is not now, a new-age spiritual seeker. He is a dyed-in-the-wool New […]

Spend Some Time Alone

The importance of solitude


Usually, you’ll hear me tellin’ ya to spend more time with friends. This is because the best predictor of a person’s happiness is the breadth and depth of her social connections. But alone time is important, too. A Harvard study indicates that a bit of solitude can make us more capable of empathy towards others. […]

5 Ways to Cope with a ‘Difficult’ Person

Apply these strategies, and show your children how they can do the same.

My paternal grandmother died young, at age 49; and within a year of her death, my grandfather had remarried the woman who would become my grandma. Even though her kisses smelled like cigarette smoke, I adored her. As a little girl, I did not know that she didn’t get along well with her adult stepchildren, […]

Tuesday Tip: The Best Habit To Start Now

You already know, of course, that getting into a regular exercise routine is probably the best thing you can do for yourself — whether you want to be happier, healthier, skinnier, or smarter. Even though you already know this, I’m going to remind you. Why? Because I think we sometimes forget that the hassles of […]

3 Reasons You Shouldn’t Make a New Year’s Resolution

And what to do instead (if you do anything at all).

Like most self-help authors and coaches, I love New Year’s Resolutions. Weeks ago I started asking my kids what theirs were going to be. I have a fantasy that January 1st will be THE day we launch headlong into our new-and-improved lives. I LOVE a fresh start, and there is nothing fresher than the first week in […]

Happiness Tip: Take Time to Rest

When the holiday season is underway, rest is key.

This may be “the happiest time of year” for some, but if it isn’t for you, I think it’s at least in part because we get so darn tired. Let this be your friendly reminder to actually take time to rest between now and January 2nd. I used to find it hard to rest at […]

20 Questions to Ask This Holiday Season

Need something besides politics to talk about over the holidays?

My four teens keep asking me what we are going to talk about at our big Christmas dinner this year. All of them followed this year’s election with passion; they each have their own take on what a Trump presidency is going to mean for the causes and people they most care about. They are worried. While […]

The Simplest Way to Feel More Joyful (Right Now)

Three happiness exercises to try today.

“Abundance can be had simply by consciously receiving what has already been given.” — Sufi Saying Everywhere I go, people ask me this one question: “If you had to pick just one thing that could make me happier right now, what would it be?” I’m always tempted to make jokes about sex and yoga — […]

Stress-Relieving Tips for the Holidays (Video)

Holiday stress tips and how to say "No" with Candace Rose.


I joined Candace Rose for an interview to discuss how we can avoid disappointment this season and stop being so hard on ourselves, the secret to saying “no”, and stress relieving tips we can use when we feel a sense of overwhelm. Candace Rose: The holidays are often thought of as the most wonderful time […]